Mandy Greening

I am systemic psychotherapist. A systemic approach to therapy does not seek to diagnose problems, it focuses instead on supporting people to make sense of their lives.

Our early relationships and experiences influence how we see and interact with the world. We can develop patterns of thinking and behaving that might initially help to protect us. However, these patterns can become unhelpful, dissatisfying and problematic later in our lives. We might see the impact of these patterns in our families, our relationships, our career, or our day to day behaviours.

I offer a safe space for you to explore your thoughts and feelings to understand the influence of your own unique history on your current circumstances. I will support you to build strength and resilience, to identify where change is possible, and to find ways of going forwards within the context of your own life.

Systemic therapy can useful to adults with a range of difficulties or interpersonal issues issues; from anxiety and depression, grief, parenting, separation and divorce. It can also support people to heal from trauma.

Individual Therapy

Couples Therapy

Relationships can be joyful, challenging, and everything in between. They can impact on our mental health, leading to stress, anxiety, sadness and depression. It may be that we are not completely aligned in our goals, or our expectations. We may feel that we have different attachment styles, or simply that we struggle to communicate and end up in conflict. We may be struggling to adapt to the natural transitions that we experience in life, such as; parenting, fertility, financial stress, ill-health, grief, caring, our careers, affairs, or other relational traumas.

My approach to working with couples combines a systemic and emotionally focussed approach. We all bring our unique experiences and ways of behaving and communicating into relationships. We tend to act and react in ways that help to keep us stuck.

I offer couples a safe space to have difficult conversations. I focus on supporting couples to understand their own roles and responsibilities in developing and maintaining negative patterns within the relationship. I support each individual to feel heard and understood, to understand the other, to communicate feelings and needs to each other without fear of being criticized or attacked. In this way, couples can heal relational wounds, rebuild trust, intimacy and connection.

Family

Therapy

Families come in all shapes and sizes. Sometimes, the issues that individuals face within families can affect family functioning and family mental health.

Systemic Family Therapy offers a safe place for families to have talk about and explore difficult feelings and thoughts. It can help the individuals in families to understand each other's experiences, and to develop new perspectives. It can help with

• Developing healthy boundaries

• Improving family dynamics

• Strengthening attachments

• Reducing conflict

• Improving resilience and strength

• Developing coping mechanisms when things are difficult, and

• Understanding what works well in their family and build on those strengths

  Family Therapy can help with both child and adult focussed problems, such as;

• Sleep and Feeding (for babies)

• Attachment

• Child abuse

• Eating disorders

• School related difficulties

• Relationship distress

• Alcohol and drug misuse

I am a UKCP registered Systemic Psychotherapist

A member of the Association for Family Therapy and Systemic Practice.

An Emotionally Focussed Couples therapist

Accreditation and Registration

FAQs

What will happen in my first session?

The first session is an opportunity for us to get to know each other. There will be space for us to ask questions of each other. I will ask why you are seeking therapy at this time, what you are hoping to gain from therapy, and also what previous experience you may have had in therapy. It is an exploratory session that helps me to understand how best to support you in therapy. You will hopefully gain a sense of what therapy might look like with me, and an idea as to whether you feel that I can meet your needs.

How often should I attend therapy?

Some clients attend weekly, at least for the first few sessions, they may then reduce to fortnightly. Whilst this is in part personal preference, it is useful to see a therapist regularly in the early days, to build trust. It is also useful to have time between sessions to process the discussions. We can discuss this in our first session, to determine what might best meet your needs.

Will I benefit from therapy?

I have worked with a very diverse client base, and they are all unique individuals, couples or families. They have attended due to a wide variety of presenting issues that they wish to explore. This has varied from anxiety and depression, to isolation and feelings of loneliness, fertility and maternal experiences, communication problems, fears around abandonment and safety, concerns regarding identity and belonging, self-harming and addictive behaviours, and many more. If we both feel, during our first meeting, that you would benefit form a different approach to my own, I am able to refer you on to alternative therapists or organisations that may be able to meet your needs

Do you offer in person sessions?

Most of my work is undertaken online due to the global nature of my client base. However, I am available to undertake face to face work in Hull, E. Yorks, UK.